5 Myths which may prevent you to move abroad
Published: Tuesday 5th January, 2021.
Myth #1 - It is impossible because I do not speak the language!
You do not have to speak the language to move abroad, you will learn it over time. Of course, it would be much easier if you did however you can always manage without or with only a few basic words.
When I moved to England four years ago, believe it or not I did not speak English at all. However, I was still able to do my shopping at the local grocery. I immersed myself into the English community and started to develop my vocabulary and my confidence. It was hard, it was embarrassing, I made a lot of mistakes, I did not understand the subtilities of the language so for example when somebody asked me “How are you?” instead of saying “ I am okay, thank you” I went on explaining about the last few years of my life! It was not appropriate, but I did not know it at the time.
You must give yourself the permission to make some mistakes. You cannot learn a new language without making any. It is obvious but it can be hard to accept for most of us. It is the only way to improve your skills.
Forget your mistakes and have fun instead.
As per the American proverb says: “Life is like a roller coaster, it has its ups and downs but it’s your choice to scream or enjoy the ride”
Myth #2 - It is impossible because I will never find a job abroad!
It is exactly what I thought before moving abroad but to the contrary I found a job and even got promoted. After 3 years I also wrote a book “How to build your career abroad”.
So of course, looking for work can be incredibly stressful and make you doubt of your choice to have moved abroad.
The worst-case scenario is if you are alone. Dr Tara Brach the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington always suggests looking for the helpers as they exist and will help you.
You can for example work as an au pair and live with a local family. You would earn some money, have some support and help go learn the language! You can investigate apprenticeship options or register with temping agencies. You can ask friends for recommendations and visit local job centres, or work in a bar or restaurant. If you start thinking outside the box and try to think creatively, you will find a solution.
You can do it but you need to know what is limiting you so you can address this and start building a career. If you already speak the language, then your possibilities are endless.
In my FREE guide I will show you step by step what you can do to improve your skills and develop yourself in order to be in a totally different place in the next few years.
I know it works. I did it. You can trust me!
Myth #3 – It is impossible because it is really expensive!
This myth is not totally untrue as it will depend on where you are moving to. If you are moving to Singapore, then yes maybe it will be rather expensive but if you are moving to Bali for example it may not be too bad.
Be curious about the country you are moving to and prepare yourself, plan accordingly. Do some research on the costs of living, housing, universities, childcare etc. The internet will provide you with most needed information for any country in the world. It may be an idea for example to save ahead of your move, so you have a few months’ worth of living expenses and to prepare your own checklist.
My tip: Invite some friends around for a drink and organize a brain storming session. Ask them “how can you move abroad if you do not have a lot of money?” You will be surprised of how many unexpected answers you will receive. Just check this out, there is nothing to lose!
Myth #4 - It is impossible because I have a family, children and two dogs!
Moving abroad is not just beneficial for you to enhance your career, it is also a chance for your family to learn and grow in a new environment. There may be a few bumps in the road but it can be a very positive experience for all of your family.
Before I moved to the UK my husband, children and I made the agreement that after one year of living abroad, we would reflect on the move and ask each one of us the question “DO YOU WANT TO STAY HERE OR PREFER TO GO BACK HOME?”
As per the expression “Only cows don’t change their minds” when you take a decision remember that you can always change your mind. If you can afford to keep your house in your home country it will feel easier to take that step as you will have a place to come back to.
Nothing is forever set, and all can change very suddenly. There is only thing in this world that is for sure; change will happen!
Yes it would be easier to stay in your native country, but once you have moved and developed new skills, met new friends, settled in the new culture you will be thankful to yourself, for years on end. Moving even in your own country because of a new job for example can create similar challenges and opportunities. If you never try, you will never know!
My tip: Create a list of pros and cons for moving abroad in the short and long term! You can do this with your family, create a game and ask your children to write or draw pictures. You can make it fun.
Myth #5 It is impossible because I am too old!
You can never be too old to move abroad, but you can always find excuses. Your age should not put you off fulfilling a dream neither the various stages of your life such as being single or having a family, not have the time or not enough money!
There are people in life seriously injured still running marathons. Be whoever you are and write your own story with your very own new chapter.
Think about the story you live in at the moment, what is the title of your book? What is going to be the next chapter about?